Dating after your divorce can be difficult not only logistically, but also emotionally. A few questions would sometimes come to mind like; How will the kids react? How would i meet the right man? and so on. Even if it may seem like an uncharted territory for you, it can be very rewarding to step outside your comfort zone and actually date again.*
Below are a few simple steps to take:
1. Accept that dating again will be hard
It's important that whoever you meet accepts you and your kid(s) and be prepared to brace up to the challenges that would come with this new dating process. Your children will think they are being replaced and that you might end up loving the new stranger more than them. Therefore it's no gain saying that you have to assure them of the love you have for them
2. Don't become intimate too soon
It's natural to feel like a teenager with raging hormones when you start dating again. But the bedroom is not the best place to start a relationship. Passion gets confused with love and it's easy to get swept away in a relationship that might ultimately be wrong for you. If your new man isn't willing to wait, then he will have little patience for anything else. A true gentleman won't push too hard and will respect your feelings. And that of course is what you want to achieve in the end.
3. Visit online dating sites
Online dating sites help you interact with people from different works of life especially if your are an introvert. Ensure that your profile shows you are a single mom. And never lie about having children. Look out for scammers and fraudsters while visiting these sites. Ask as many questions as possible and verify backgrounds as much as you can.
4. When to introduce the kids to the man you are dating
It is advisable that you don’t introduce your new found love to your child too soon no matter how tempted you feel. More often than not, romance do not end up the way you wish and if you do the introduction too soon, your child might become too attached to him and end up heartbroken if it doesn’t work out.
5. When go out on a date, focus on your date
As a single mom, it's easy for your whole life to be wrapped up in your kids. But they shouldn't be the main topic of conversation during your date. Take some time to find out about this new man; his interests, work, and hobbies. It's fine to talk about your kids, but keep it to a minimum.
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